Let's have some common sense
I would like to reply to the letters from withheld and the Reverend Charles on April 2. I am one of the two families referred to and I am sorry to say there are exceptions that I see on a regular basis when I visit my parents' grave.
I would like to reply to the letters from "withheld" and the Reverend Charles on April 2.I am one of the two families referred to and I am sorry to say there are exceptions that I see on a regular basis when I visit my parents' grave. To the left-hand side, looking down, there is the cremation area looking very nice with lots of flowers on the top of their loved ones and also at least five graves that have "gardens". All of these look nice and tidy and I assume, because it may be a bit difficult to ride the sit-on mower down that side, this is deemed OK! So the "rule" no exception is not being adhered to.Would someone please tell me when the "rules" came into force. My mum died in June 2005 and, up until my dad sadly died in November 2008, their grave has always been a pleasure to visit. Just 10 days after my dad was buried, all of the tributes, including the cards attached with messages, had been thrown on the rubbish pile in the top corner of the graveyard. I was distraught to at first think the grave had been vandalised, but then realised it had been done on purpose - beyond belief.And, yes, I did go to see the Reverend Charles, who was not available, but he spoke to me on the phone and assured me he would make sure this sort of thing would not happen again. However, just last month, my sister planted some spring plants and they were dug up and all the spring flowers mown down.Please can this awful treatment stop. Where there was once flowers and grass, only mud remains. I have been told my dad's headstone cannot be put in place until the ground settles, but at this rate there will not be any ground left.Let's have some common sense and not be quoted health and safety rules as were said to my sister. If there is a risk of flying debris - bits of china or glass from vases or gravel - wear protective equipment such as a visor.If my sister and I have "broken the rules", we are sorry - we were not aware of any rules!This has to be one of the worst times my sister and myself have had. We are finding it hard to come to terms with our loss - we should not have to fight for the right to do so. Mrs L Davis,10 Breton Way, Exmouth.